This post comes from guest blogger Dan Cleveland, who is a senior at the University of Dayton studying journalism and Spanish. He serves as Assistant Opinions Editor for the school’s student-run newspaper, Flyer News, and also blogs for live local music resource DaytonRocks.com. He’s a fan of fast cars and rock ‘n’ roll (especially Ty Segall).
It’s Valentine’s Day, and fellas all over the world are rolling their eyes in disgust.
To the average man, this day represents the occasion for a woman to force him into an earlier and stronger romantic commitment than he might like, while his pocketbook simultaneously suffers the consequences. So even for a total gentleman, it’s not uncommon to feel a deep, pit-of-your-stomach kind of hatred for this day, which in turn makes men look like selfish jerks.
So what’s the cure for this maudlin mouse trap?
Well, the answer to that question depends pretty heavily on your situation, but there are ways to work the system in your favor:
If you’re sweet on some sweetie …
… but aren’t ready for the real-deal relationship, help ease the pressure of V-day by setting the tone of your time together. If you want to take her out on a low-key date, make clear your intentions to keep the plans casual. Be playful, not immature, and don’t let your valentine think your motivation is laziness or dullness. Put little to no thought into a kiddy Valentine’s Day card, but follow it up with a bouquet of flowers. Let her know you are enjoying the chance to spend time with her, but don’t get all emotional. If you’re successful, she won’t be waiting for you to profess your deepest feelings to her because she’s too distracted by the fact that you’re showing her a great time.
If you’re the type who’s in a committed relationship with your hunny bunny
The answer is simple: Be spontaneous! Surprise her, do something you’ve never done before, drive out of your hometown and give her fake clues about where you’re going. Keep in mind, this doesn’t mean you have to spend a lot of money – just shake things up. Pick a location at random, go about your night without having any specific plans and try not to make it seem like you had to try to be impulsive. If you keep the mood adventurous enough, you might totally surprise her and show her a side of you she may not have known before.
As for you single, no-prospects-on-the-horizon-havin’ fellas
You are the ones who get to have the real fun, because you have the opportunity to totally make some girl’s day without any annoying strings attached. Here’s the trick: Go about your normal daily routine and make sure you’re nice and spiffed-up – shave the scruff, change the shirt, wash the hair. Bonus points if you throw on a suit. Buy a couple of roses or a box of candy hearts and write something simple, like, “Be my valentine?” on the card. If there’s a particularly charming or attractive woman you encounter in your daily routine, or if you just happen to bump into a cutie, you’ve got your target. Be prepared to deliver your valentine at a moment’s notice, since you might find a target anywhere, and take extra precaution to ensure you don’t accidently provoke anger from a boyfriend or husband. When performed properly, you’ll be that mysterious macho man that all girls secretly dream about, and you’ll have effectively cured the Valentine’s Day Blues for at least two people. Sure, you could sit at home and mope on your couch, but why not have a little fun?
Valentine’s Day is kind of a silly holiday in the first place, but if we gents try to keep it breezy, we can make the day more tolerable for everyone.
(image via The Chive)